Isn’t the realization that we’re so much older on the outside also proof that our youth persists on the inside? That we’ve remained on intimate terms with our younger selves? … Read More Act your age
I confess, listening to Marianne Williamson in those first two presidential debates, I had a couple of eyeroll moments. Her ideals are crucially important, but my brain kept going: why is this new-agey guru on the stage with Elizabeth Warren and Pete Buttigieg? Here are two superb technocrats out-thinking, outsmarting everyone else, and we’re all… Read More Separated at birth?
Listening is especially fun when you meet someone like Jess Mooney, who proved to me that this experiment in writing about aging well is relevant even when I’m talking with someone a generation younger. … Read More On the path of choosing
Being a stepmom is a circuitous way to motherhood. It’s a test: can I see past the talk-back and the rumpled room and the running out and slamming the door, to the confused and lovable child inside? … Read More Addiction: a love story
We imagine every flavor of younger ages, but we’re trapped in the culturally-defined perceptions of old folks.… Read More Chewing on aging and ageism
Normally, I see myself from the inside looking out. Until I happen on a mirror—I hardly recognize me from the outside looking in. If it wasn’t for the slow evolution of my appearance I’d wonder: who is that older woman with the surprised look on her face?… Read More The beauty and the crone
My mom said your job as a mother, from the time your child is five, is to prepare them to leave home. That seemed sensible, until my own child was inching toward the door.… Read More Old shoes
I’ve always dealt with stress or loss by focusing on what comes out at the other end—not ignoring the hurt but staying open to the flip side too. … Read More Help!
When you look at me, you see the product of a life: the sagging jowls, the sprouting grey hairs, the struggle to remember a word I need. But you might not see the 60 years of baby boomer striving to find my path, nurture my family, earn my way, and feel good about my efforts. … Read More Spotting age spots
Remember when your definition of “old” kept changing as you grew from a child, through adolescence, through your 20’s, 40’s and so on? I thought old was my parents’ age. Then it was my grandparents’ age. Now that I’m 66, my definition is hardly based on age at all.… Read More Wild and precious