How to just do it
I began musing here about growing older boldly, skipping along with an untested sense of optimism. Now I have a fresh appreciation for how hard it is. … Read More How to just do it
I began musing here about growing older boldly, skipping along with an untested sense of optimism. Now I have a fresh appreciation for how hard it is. … Read More How to just do it
Why do we have this great thirst to live anyway? Parents tell us that smoking is dangerous; junk food is dangerous; drinking and driving is dangerous. But Buddhism says, just being born is dangerous. … Read More The cause of death is birth
Coming to the end of my second month of chemo, I’m aware of the tired toll it’s taking on my body. It’s cumulative. But I feel bad about whining; I can’t help but circle back to how fortunate I’ve been.… Read More Chemo report: Whining and ice cream
My hair was half gone, and what remained seemed mostly loose hanks tangled in the hangers-on. So, I’m having one more new experience: baldness. … Read More Chemo report: Hair today, gone tomorrow
Until now, I’ve been focused on choosing how to live, so turning my thoughts toward dying is new. If I have a choice, just how do I want that to go?… Read More The power of choice
How can you tell when you’re old? Bill Gates claimed, “You don’t really start getting old until you stop learning.” Well, I’m venturing out on a whole new learning curve. … Read More A day for something frightening
F. Scott Fitzgerald said, “The test of a first-rate intelligence is the ability to hold two opposed ideas in mind at the same time and still retain the ability to function.” I’m struggling to function.… Read More A dad’s arms
Isn’t the realization that we’re so much older on the outside also proof that our youth persists on the inside? That we’ve remained on intimate terms with our younger selves? … Read More Act your age
Being a stepmom is a circuitous way to motherhood. It’s a test: can I see past the talk-back and the rumpled room and the running out and slamming the door, to the confused and lovable child inside? … Read More Addiction: a love story
My mom said your job as a mother, from the time your child is five, is to prepare them to leave home. That seemed sensible, until my own child was inching toward the door.… Read More Old shoes